Whatever is done everything is for the better meaning. What is not being done is for the best. The most successful people have this experience.

“Whatever is done, everything is for the better” is such a hymn to denial and rationalization. This was invented by those who did not find the moral strength to cope with the challenge of the human situation. Great comfort in the event of events out of control, or an excuse for a wrong choice?

Probably, I want to believe in harmony and the higher meaning of what is happening, logic and wisdom beyond consciousness that are inaccessible to us. But it's hard to rely on things that can't be controlled. There are things that happen with varying degrees of regularity, but something is the result of a choice, including an unconscious one. For example, being in a zone with an increased likelihood of this or that event is also a choice. And any choice leads to certain consequences - "good" or "bad".

I'm afraid that there is no predetermined thing:scenario, fate, guarantees. It is not easy to accept responsibility for what went wrong through our fault. This is a difficult moment. But it is itself a challenge to maturity and a point of growth. How to come to terms with what turned out to be a consequence of the choice?

The main goal of Gestalt therapy is to fix the Ego function. That is, to return or replenish the ability to make a choice, to be responsible for it and at the same time be satisfied with the course of one's own life. For to spend the rest of your days in regret about the previous ones is somehow irrational from the point of view of evolution. If we turn to the religions of the world, we will find that one of the general and most important ideas is the idea of \u200b\u200bhumility. Accept - be with the world. Do what needs to be done and come what may. Something depends on us, and some does not.

As a starting point, it is worth taking the fact that no one knows how life would flow if at that moment of choice it was decided differently. This will all remain in the fantasy zone. In reality, there are only consequences, which must be dealt with somehow. That's all.

The consequences can be different.Joyful - giving a sense of triumph, victory over circumstances, special luck. Or sad ones - leading to feelings of guilt, powerlessness, deep regret. Unpleasant feelings cannot be ignored. You can, with varying degrees of success, suppress them, oust them, somehow try to get rid of them, or you can meet with them and live. In the first case, this is a large expenditure of mental energy, loss of time and stagnation. In another - learning a lesson, even a bitter one, and reaching a new level. By making a so-called mistake, you get a wonderful bonus - a kind of vaccine against stupidity!And in the light of this experience, much becomes clear.

In reality, making the right choice is not so easy.To correctly prioritize, navigate what has not happened yet (predict the future), feel what will be important later ... It's not easy at all. I would say - on the verge of a possible. “Walking through the stars”, hearing the subtlest voice of intuition, trusting it, reading the signs correctly, does not always work, but when you are under stress.

Important decisions are always associated with anxiety, and in a stressful state, we usually fall into regression and "dumb". It is foolish to feel sorry for and reproach yourself for choosing something that seemed important at that time. At that moment, you were the person to whom this choice seemed the best possible. Then it is easy to argue that it would be necessary ...

It's bad if you don't make a choice at all.More precisely, there is still a choice - it is to passively react or transfer responsibility to someone or something. But this, again, is rarely recognized as a choice. Everything that is not explainable is endowed with an artificial meaning, fatalism is formed. Lucky in some situations - and a victim of circumstances in others.

In general, harsh realism is not popular. The magic paradigm is much nicer. But life is not for weaklings. published.

Tatiana Martynenko

P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we are changing the world! © econet

Beginning a business - be sure to complete it! This mother's rule is not devoid of meaning and clear prospects. But what about the magic of the moment, how is the last chance to change everything, change your mind, make life less predictable, but more suitable for you personally? Our heroes did not obey anyone except their intuition - and they talk about it with joy.

CHECKED up to study

Anya (26), Moscow

I studied at MGIMO at the faculty international relations... Specialization - Africa. After four years of torment, she received a blue bachelor's degree and, succumbing to herd instinct, applied for a magistracy. It seemed to me that "master" sounded cooler than "specialist", but it was necessary to study for him for another two years, and for a specialist - one.

For admission it was necessary to pass the "History of the Countries of the East of the XX century". I went into the auditorium, took a ticket. I sat down to prepare, but my thoughts suddenly began to work in a different direction. Will I really be studying the problems of East and Africa for two more years? Some crimes give less! At that moment, when one of the applicants answered his ticket, I realized that I did not want to be in his place. I do not want any exams or master's degree! I don't want to work at the Foreign Ministry and become a guru of African studies! By that time, I was already moonlighting and knew that there was a lot of bright, creative work in the world. And she wanted to go to that world, not to the Foreign Ministry and Africa.

I called my assistant and asked: "May I leave?" She replied that it was impossible to go out during the exam. I clarified that I do not want to leave, but to leave: “I don’t want to enter. Absolutely. " The girl was confused, smiled stupidly and said: "Well, okay ..." I took my things and left, accompanied by amazed glances from the teachers. The fellow students outside the door were also surprised. Probably they thought I was a weakling. But I had the feeling that for once I wasn’t going with the flow, but that I was surfacing and catching a breath of air, that I was doing an Action, making a Decision. I didn't know what I was going to tell my mother, but I thought that I had done someone a favor, because I had vacated one place in the magistracy.

"I wanted to go to the world, not to the Foreign Ministry!"

Before the exam, the master's degree for me was a bastion that must be taken, and I prepared, despite a severe cold and tiredness from the final exams ... Now I only regret that I did not leave the first year. At MGIMO, I began to miss from the very beginning.

Five years have passed since then. All this time I worked in the publishing business: as a secretary, personal assistant, sales manager, PR specialist, journalist. Now I am managing a project, I love my job, and I don't care how many diplomas are gathering dust on my bookshelf. As practice has shown, everything turned out to be for the better.

HAS CHANGED TO WORK

Evgeniya (24), Novosibirsk

I got a job at a bank. Two months later, I saw the vacancy of my dreams: “We need a news journalist on TV”. Passed an interview, coped with a creative task, received an invitation to work and ... the next day she did not come out. I changed my mind, because in the morning the head of the department called me from the bank and said: “Don't leave, here a diploma came to you as the best specialist, another prize and some other white envelope”.

I called on TV and explained that I could not go to work, because my salary was added to my old place. I was hoping that they would ask me: “Are you sure? Have you thought well? " And I will say: “No, I want to see you! Take me away! ”, But the editor only wished me luck. I regretted my decision three days later, when I turned on the TV and saw that a girl who studied a year younger and whom I considered a nerd, far from life and profession, was taken to "my" position.

"I tried to imagine people happily buying shoe covers ..."

Six months later, a crisis came, and I was fired from the bank, like many other employees. A couple of months later, I was offered a serious and interesting job as a regional sales manager. At the interview, I flashed my banking experience, and I was accepted without further questions. I had to sell shoe covers. In the evening, on the eve of going to work, I sat at home, drank tea and dreamed. I tried to imagine people who happily buy shoe covers ... It didn't work. To imagine yourself in that place is also ... I do not think that selling shoe covers is bad or unworthy. But I didn't see myself at such a job. I called and said that I would not leave, as I received another offer.

After these stories, I sat down, thought hard, analyzed everything and ... decided to start my own projects. She registered an LLC and began to implement her own ideas. Now I have my own design studio, and I am only responsible for myself. Which I do not regret at all.

CHECKED up to divorce

Pavel (25) and Tatiana (24), Volgograd

Paul tells. “A year and a half after the wedding, Tanya and I began to quarrel a lot. They snatched literally every day. Behaved in such a way that now it's even a shame to remember! There were several reasons for conflicts. Firstly, my wife really didn’t like the fact that I was constantly receiving sms from my friends. And they are just girlfriends, nothing like that, but these messages drove Tanya crazy! The second annoying factor was unstable financial situation - there were problems with work and, accordingly, with money - they were not enough for anything.

At some point, our scandals became simply impossible to endure. We fought without stopping for a whole month. And both came to the conclusion that there was no point in continuing the relationship anymore and that it was time to think about divorce. The scene before the New Year became the last straw. I will not go into details, but in the end we sat down in the evening, talked and decided that we could no longer live together. Then Tanya offered to divorce. I supported her decision, and the next day we went to the registry office to write a statement.

We went into the building, and suddenly memories flooded over me. I said to Tanya: “Do you remember this registry office, our wedding? Do you remember how good it was then? “She was silent, but it seemed to me that she was no longer so determined to divorce. Then I suggested that we wait another two weeks. What difference does it make whether we are divorcing now or half a month later? Moreover, the registry office is not far from the house. We turned around and went home in silence. The next two days passed as usual - we swore, grabbed ... and then somehow relaxed and stopped. Since then, they have not returned to the topic of divorce. Parents did not know anything about our decision (and about its cancellation).

“Do you remember this registry office, our wedding? How was it good for us then?

Perhaps it was a crisis in relations that we needed to overcome. Even by going to the registry office for a divorce ... Now we understand each other better than then, and are more tolerant of each other. The problems that we had a year ago have gradually been resolved. I found a job and the financial situation stabilized. In order not to injure my wife with constant “friendly” sms, I now set the phone to vibration. And most importantly, we are waiting for the addition to the family! "(We already waited! While the number was being typed, Tanya and Pavel had a son, Cyril. - Ed.)

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Irina (24), Moscow

Pregnancy came as a big surprise to me. PPraz test - and gave out two strips. It turned out to be nine weeks already. At that time I was 22 years old, I did not have a husband, but my one-year-old daughter was growing up ...

Only I had time to be glad that this crazy infant period was over, when I had to stay awake at night, walk at five in the morning, squat around the baby and perform various acrobatic performances with her in my arms ... Only I got a new job, flew on a business trip, only some prospects appeared on the horizon, and then ... Since childhood, I had an attitude: I will give birth to only one child. In addition, of course, it was frightening that my daughter and I were living in a rented apartment and that we did not have a Moscow residence permit. In general, I weighed everything and decided to have an abortion.

"Since childhood, I have had the installation: I will give birth to only one child!"

And I was already sitting in line at the clinic when I suddenly felt that I was absolutely not where I should be. It only hesitated for a second. She easily got up and went to the exit. They tried to stop me - they say, you skip the line, girl. And I didn't even take the money. At that moment I had only one desire - to leave the hospital as soon as possible. And from somewhere there was confidence that I would not be lost with two children ...

When I told my family that I was leaving the child, they began to cry with tears in their eyes: how are you alone, in Moscow, and even with two children ... The list of fears and arguments against was endless. But I was calm and calm and was not going to change my decisions.

I believe that then everything happened at the right time and in the right place. The situation was gradually resolved: I bought an apartment with the help of a mortgage, and we all became full-fledged Muscovites, I began working two jobs and went to the office a month after giving birth. Now, being a mother of two daughters, I have time to go to the theater and to exhibitions, and skate, and meet friends. This fall I went to university again. And personal life, it seems, is slowly getting better. Around close people who support me ...

I don't plan to tell my second girl about that story in the hospital queue. What for? I think we will have many other, more important topics for conversation!

Prepared by Alexandra Sorokovikova

Photo: CORBIS / FOTO SA. FROM THE ARCHIVES OF HEROES

Whatever is done - everything is for the best !!!

There are no wrong directions in life. Any path leads you to your goal. And if now you inside yourself understand that you are not doing what is wrong, not YOURS, someone else's - in fact it is not so ... You are moving exactly where you need to! But only if you really do something, and do not sit still and expect something from life - a miracle, a chance, an opportunity, and you don’t put your finger on your finger.

Any action takes you where you need to go. Even if now you do not see and do not understand where and why. And it doesn't really matter. It is the movement forward that matters.

Now why is this so? In fact, any of your actions develops you and builds in a bunch of knowledge and skills - the skill of setting and achieving goals, the skill of making decisions, the ability to get along and negotiate with people, the ability to overcome setbacks, and so on. Even if you are now engaged in an unloved business, you still develop it all in yourself. Whatever you do, you learn to understand yourself, you grow personally, you improve yourself ...

For what??? In order to when the moment comes, use these skills to achieve YOUR PURPOSE. Everyone knows the expression - when the student is ready - the teacher comes. The same goes for YOUR goal. When you become ready to implement it, you get an opportunity for it. But if you don't do anything, don't move anywhere, don't develop, just do the same thing - this opportunity will never appear, which means that you will never achieve your goal. And you will never live the way you want.

There you are real example - Steve Jobs, creator of Apple. While still a student, he enrolled in calligraphy courses, which were in no way connected with anything. I just signed up - I wanted to. It would seem why and for what? But then this knowledge was put into the computer font system and now the whole world uses exactly these fonts, information about which Steve Jobs received in his calligraphy courses. And for you, the conclusion is simple - Any path leads you to your goal.

If you need more examples, read the biographies. successful people... All of them went broke, did the wrong thing, but in the end they came to understand their goals with the baggage of the necessary skills and knowledge and made a sharp leap forward. So wherever you are now, whatever you are doing, you are preparing to achieve your goal. Even if you still do not see it on the horizon and have no idea what this goal is ... This understanding will surely come!

But it will come only to those who will go forward, act and develop! And not to complain about life, the government and employers and sit on TV or in social networks. networks - so you will definitely not find your goal. So today you have a solid plus to motivation! Take action! Now you know that Any path leads you to your goal!

The principle of "all for the best" works.

At least I have not yet had a single situation that did not work.

Everything that is taken away from you, that is not given, that does not happen as you would like, that you even destroy yourself - all this passes and is replaced by something much more correct and good for you. And then, of course, you can lose that again. And again something better comes along.

For example, a disappointing break in relations then turned out to be really correct and useful - relations came much better. The gap between the following was also for the benefit - if there had not been a painful parting once again, then there would not have been a much better story later.

Or a big debt, which was formed by a coincidence of seemingly unfavorable circumstances, and had to be paid off - thanks to him, new projects were built many times faster and not only the debt was given up, but life became much easier and more pleasant further, suddenly new opportunities appeared, which was not there before.

And after all, at the moment when something happens, you do not know why this or that situation is better for you - how good is it that you missed the train, the sale of what you really wanted ended, did not enter the university, or ended up in accident.

The path is often very long. You forget what led to what, what the chain was, and how it all began. Or awareness is not enough to understand and evaluate the entire scope of what happened, this entire chain of events from and to.

For me, for example, so - a few years after the events ended, all the worst that happened, I now consider the main benefit for me. It was it that moved me the most in an unexpected but very good direction. I love where I ended up.

There can be a lot of reasons for "bad", unpleasant events, the same esoteric ones - you have spoiled your karma with something, the universe wants a new lesson to pass, an old lesson to fail, you wanted something too much, clung to or afraid, or just latently wanted it is this self - this destruction and change.

But the fact remains. The most correct and effective way is to perceive any situation “all for the better” and with humor.

If, of course, you are adequate, draw conclusions, take responsibility, work, improve your life, develop and move forward.

Instead of just sliding into a hole, saying “everything is for the best,” all this may not work.

At the same time, it is not easy to be inside the situation. It is often very painful when you are inside this tornado, you feel here and now emotions about the loss, a lack of understanding why this is so with you, because yesterday it was good. You just have to wait out this moment and actively continue to act in all directions, look for solutions and comprehend what is happening. Perhaps they want to tell you from above what lessons you have not learned, or you need to radically change something in your life.

I began to consciously apply “everything for the best” as a principle of handling situations, and not just as a popular saying p.

This is the fifth rule - "The ability to give thanks for everything: both good and bad".

I will give it here in full:

“Thanks for the good, we strengthen it, and thanks to what we consider to be bad, we transform it into positive.

All non-positive events are low-frequency, and gratitude is a high-frequency vibration.

Thus, thanks to the bad, we do not interact with the negative and do not allow it to settle in our life. And if we learn to be grateful for events that we do not like, then over time we will be able to realize that through bad things always come good.

When we are not ready to accept the positive (categorical or emotionally dependent on what we bet on), we are given the opportunity to cleanse ourselves through the trouble. And this is not masochism at all, but the understanding that we are given a chance to realize what we did not understand before. After all, God does not have "bad" and "good", God has everything that is useful, it is important that it be in its place and fulfill its function.

Seraphim of Sarov said that it is very good for an ordinary person, unconscious before death, to be sick for a couple of years, because the soul is cleansed through the removal of claims, attachments, condemnation of the surrounding people, and thus a person falls into higher-frequency vibrations. Also, we are given troubles, indicating where we need to change our attitude. And after the changes, become more successful, wealthy and happy. "

All his rules are about conscious, positive, grateful, or simply even (without distortions), i.e. the most effective perception of reality.

Also, Alexander often says that in some situations, good can only come to us through bad.

“Depending on what level you are at, you will be given:

- either false information (in order for you to do the right thing);
- or information for which you are ready (and you MUST have to act!);
- either the information you need, but if you DO NOT use it, then the good will come to you through the bad. "

And here is another piece of advice from Alexander Palienko:

“If you want to be rich and successful, and get good not through bad - spend more energy on humor at a time when the situation does not give you pleasure... Make jokes about this.
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Because if we begin to condemn what we used yesterday in our life and it was normal for us, we destroy today's: "yesterday" becomes for us low-quality and ineffective. However, we had it because of the compliance with our energy.
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When we come to some sad village, and we don't like everything about it, we need to start thinking creatively about how we would like to see it. This "constructive" will save us, so that we do not take on other people's problems on ourselves and do not work out this village. For example, they did not restore roads in it with their energy.
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Condemnation is rejection. Condemning - we finance the changes, which means that in our life there will be "this village and its broken roads", while everything will be fine in the village itself. "

And more from Alexander:

« Happiness is a state in which you are, no matter what happens.... It is the emitter that generates events.

If you start to depend on events, then it is not easy for you to be happy.

A happy person is one who is happy no matter what happens, and then, in his likeness, corresponding events begin to occur for him.

Much has been said about the transition to a new dimension. We measured everything in length, width, height. And now how much Love comes to the fore.

You need to understand that the most dangerous thing right now is information. Because even if we are talking about love, but at the moment of talking about love, we do not have love, we push people into an even greater state of fear.

And this means when we read literature in which it is necessary to do very well and qualitatively in order to be happy, where the most accurate events are described that can lead us to happiness, but the inner state of the person who gave this information is not there. , then this information, it always requires fullness, takes our vital energy in order to be realized, and the future is always realized on emotions, which means that the first thing that is done is our emotions are activated - no matter what, and then the good begins to come through the bad.

The Eclisiaste says that "knowledge is disheartening," and it is not written why. There is only one reason - knowledge should always be less than love. Or love should always be more than knowledge.

When there is more love, then love harmonizes knowledge and brings us into a state of happiness. When we have a lot of knowledge, we do not possess love, we cannot harmonize the structure of this knowledge, we become arrogant, and say “we know more than you”, and how to be in these situations. Or we get discouraged because we have no idea how we can make this world happy.

So, any information always needs a supply of love in order to structure and harmonize it.

If we do not have a reserve of love, we have more knowledge, then they use our life, and do not correctly enter life in order to be realized here in physics.

And it turns out that when we read empty books, even about very good things, they lead to the fact that troubles and problems begin in our life.

The Bible says “speak out of excess of feelings,” because feelings, emotions shape our future.

If you speak and write correctly, but there is no inner feeling, the state that you are experiencing, then these words will only create troubles, problems, difficulties for other people who read this, because they will begin to be attracted to something it was happening. They do not have an emotional state to do this in their lives, but this requires energy. Where does energy come from? From health, from business, from family relations. "

The benefits of difficult situations for us

Various unexpected and unwanted situations give us a lot:

- Growing capacity - the ability to lose more and receive more, i.e. move to the next level. This means that in the future we will get a chance for greater changes in life. It is perfectly.

- Train the spirit, effective attitude to life. They stimulate thinking, being aware, changing, learning to switch quickly. It's like a simulator, without it the disease will start, the muscles will atrophy, the strength will go away. Everything will never be perfect in life. But the good news is that starting from a certain level of spiritual and material development, problems will turn into simply interesting tasks, fear will turn into curiosity, excitement.

- Provide an opportunity to claim the rights to greater power. ... Spirit, strength - these are basic concepts in stalking (Castaneda, etc.)

- They throw us into major changes, make it possible to get them in a jerk, very quickly, if before that we were afraid for a very long time or did not find time for them. But relaxing and embracing everything is one of the hardest moments.

Esoterics and Psychology

I believe in esotericism and psychology, and I try to combine. The practice of accepting the situation as it is, and accepting everything for the best works in both interpretations.

Esoterics:

Gratitude, calmness, acceptance, positivity, humor increase the frequency of vibrations. High frequency aligns everything - what is happening, the future, karma, forms new good events. By staying on a low frequency wave, you stimulate the attraction of new bad events.

Sometimes the good cannot come to you except through the bad.

What is happening is "bad" (and it can only be so in your current perception ") - this is usually always compensation - for the past or the future. For what was wrong, not correct in your past action or perception, or for your not readiness to perceive current information, for not readiness for changes, growth, for the lack of your energy to build a correct future for you now.

The universe, God has no duality - there is no black and white, bad and good, everything is equal, fair. Everything is good for you in your current situation.

To treat everything as a game is the most correct state. Pumped like a character, from level to level.

The universe insists that you go through a situation, learn a lesson, change your perception of the situation and behavior. If you do not pass now, you will face the same again.

Remove categoricality, be flexible in accepting situations, do not overreact emotionally. And then there will be no diseases, including those that could be caused by these psychosomatic reasons. Alexander Palienko often says that rush at the head of all problems... Wish that everything was the way I want it right now, as quickly as possible. From haste comes categoricalness and other emotional and energetic imbalances.

Psychology:

Accepting a difficult situation as it is allows you to take a true look at the situation you are in. Perhaps somewhere you need to work on important resources - Work, Economy, Image, Family.

When we are in internal dissonance - we try to pass one off as another, we often just get into some kind of accidents, unpleasant situations, because inside, everything is aimed at resolving this dissonance, and such "confusion" occurs.

If you solve situations based on the internal locus of control - relying as much as possible on what you yourself can do right now to solve the situation so that you feel better, then such an attitude and a successful decision will more and more straighten the locus. And straightening the locus, finding such a way of solving problems, which is accompanied by maintaining and increasing self-esteem, gratitude and respect for people and situations - all this then affects all subsequent situations very favorably, and even forms good situations.

Your energy, all your promises, your communication become less hungry, looking for someone to blame. And then you automatically become more pleasant to everyone around you and to yourself too - people intuitively perceive you better, as a stronger person, evaluate you higher. Self-esteem is still growing.

You focus more on the fact that "so, we will assume that everything is for the best, but what exactly should I do now?" instead of "It's all terrible, I don't want to, who is to blame for this?"

Humor and ease of attitude to situations makes us more charming, gratitude, separation of boundaries, an inner locus make our importance higher in the eyes of other people.

My yesterday's story

Not for the first time I notice that when I try to tell about something in the blog, then some tin flies to me, which was not there before. As if the universe says, "You write about this so easily, well, if you dip your nose into such a situation, can you follow those wonderful positive rules that you write about." By the way, he dips very slightly, but compared to ordinary life, it is noticeable.

Therefore, I do not like to write about something in the key "I learned, now I do this, do everything as I think", but sometimes, of course, it skips, and then as if they immediately give a situation for verification.

Yesterday I wrote a draft of this post and went with my child to Saigon to get new foreign passports. And there, early in the morning in a crowded and seemingly safe park, where grandparents were playing sports around, they snatched my favorite electronic reader Kindle from their hands.

In general, the universe is like that with popcorn - yeah, I'm ready to apply the principle, well, go ahead) And I have never been stolen anything in my life. And what if nothing can be done about it? I sit, pondering that everything is for the best, but in the first half hour of the situation on emotions, I cannot accept and accept. It angers that everything could have been smooth and successful on this trip, but not. That usually everything is good - why and why such an out of the ordinary event, I didn't seem to break the rules too much?

Then, of course, I imagined that if they asked me - what are you ready to lose now, if you definitely need one of those in your hands - your phone, a child, a bag with documents and everything, a backpack with other documents or a Kindle ?) Of course, Kindle is the least evil. If he had stolen the bag, I would not have been able to calmly go and pick up the passports, a long history with their restoration would begin. Then I just remembered how Alexander Palienko said “through the bad comes the good”. I remembered how I recently lost my beloved expensive sports jacket, but accepted that it meant that I had to buy something new, and indeed, I love the new one much more, and I am very glad of this replacement, although I had to invest financially. Gradually let go.

What am I talking about - not the first time I come to the conclusion that you have to be very careful with self-confidence... When you think that you have passed a lesson, that the smartest is ready for anything, and you teach others how to live, this is very thin ice. And it's not just about blogging.

I'll write all this now, and something else will arrive)

But I, as a researcher, describe the principles that interest me most, and, possibly, will be of interest to others.

Add whatever happens

It all started with the fact that a friend sent me a small therapeutic fairy tale (the author is listed at the end), and I decided to write my thoughts on this topic.

« Principle of Matthew.

She remembered an anecdote that a friend told the other day.

A new Russian came to the store to hand over the New Year's garland.

- Does not work? The seller asks him.

- Why? It even works, - he answers.

- And what's the matter then?

The buyer sighed and replied:

- Not happy.

That's how it was with her: everything seemed to be fine, but nothing made me happy. And a strange thing, but every month the problems only accumulated.

First, a pipe in the bathroom burst, and it flooded the neighbors below. Then they scratched the fender of her jeep. Then a friend's puppy ruined her new Italian shoes while they were drinking tea in the kitchen. Well, when in the middle of the night the picture suddenly fell and almost knocked it down, SHE realized that she had obviously messed up somewhere.

When she told her colleagues about this in the morning, the marketer of Sveta just shrugged her shoulders:

“The Matthew Principle, dear.

- In terms of? - SHE did not understand.

- Well, the Bible says: "... whoever has, to him will be given and multiply, and whoever does not have, what he has will be taken away from him."

- Who will take away?

- Well, who-who? - as a little one, Sveta answered and she raised her eyes to the sky.

- And what to do?

Sveta sighed:

- Plus.

- What? - SHE did not understand.

- Everything! - she answered. - Both good and bad.

SHE would have forgotten about this strange principle, but after a couple of minutes the guard said that they had scratched the second wing. And then she decided that it was worth trying this Svetkin's law ... So when at lunchtime the director criticized her new project, she calmly replied:

- It is fortunately, - and left the office.

I added it.

Then I decided to do something nice for myself - I went to my favorite cafe. After 10 minutes the secretary called: “Come back. The chief decided that one of the competitors was interested in your project, so he urgently put it into development. "

Until the end of the week, SHE answered all minor problems: "It counts", "Plus", "Fortunately." And with a squeaky heart, she accepted larger ones: "Well, good, and this is in the piggy bank", "All for the best."

And what is strange, but in some incomprehensible way, this principle of Matthew worked. Because it was taken away somewhere, but at the same time some new opportunities were opened. And where SHE did not expect at all.

And when Misha suddenly decided to leave her ... she was not even surprised.

- Why don't you give a damn that I'm collecting things now? He asked indignantly.

- Do not give a damn, - she answered - But you are for a civil marriage, you are not ready for children and you don't even want to introduce me to friends. Then I have a question for myself: "Why do I need you this way, if I am for a relationship, I want children and usually the soul of the company?" Therefore, your departure, Misha, fortunately. "

He went nuts from such words and even stopped packing, but SHE had already started helping him, pulling out the second suitcase ...

Sveta was right: Matthew's principle worked, and now no one cut pieces from what she had. On the contrary, where there was little, it was added from somewhere. If there were problems, then as a lesson or a reminder: do not do others badly - he will definitely return. But still there was more good. Many times more. Just who notices that he already has, that will be given and will increase. "

Veronica Kirilyuk

Everything is done, everything is for the best

Each of us has heard this expression. Someone believes, someone, arguably proves that this is not so. There is no point in convincing. In any case, it is best to give examples. Here is one such example from my life, and I want to tell you.

Since we are on the Internet, communication takes place through computers, then an example on this topic, in my opinion, will be quite indicative and understandable to the majority.

The story began in mid-March. Who can remember, at this time there was a chain of failures in the server equipment. What is there for the reason, this is a different conversation, but several rather large participants in the Russian segment of the Internet could not fulfill their obligations. Simply put, they stopped working.

The most famous of these is the Smartresponder mailing service, which has been out for about two weeks. Smaller companies also got it, among them is the company on which I host this site.

For about a week, it was not possible to enter the site, neither the support service nor the phones responded, in short - silence. Maybe, some of you got into this period, saw the coveted inscription that the browser cannot display the page.

In principle, nothing terrible happened. Well, there was a malfunction in the equipment, that's why it and the equipment to break down. It is necessary to fix, and restore the data from the backup.

I didn’t bother on this topic. I just waited until the technical work was over, at the same time I read reviews about the work of hosting companies, looking for a more reliable option for the future.

And, of course, the coveted moment has come, the hosting has started working, the data has been restored. It would seem that the misunderstanding has been eliminated, and you can continue to work further.

But, not everything is as simple as it sounds in theory. Easy life nobody promised. This and other projects were restored, but their performance was truly surprising.

On one site, the design disappeared, on the other the links stopped working, the third one stopped loading altogether. Overall download speed dropped to a minimum, reminiscent of the Internet in the nineties.

In short, I will not go into excessive technical details, but the situation was not funny. Whoever maintains sites will understand me, it's one thing to fix a site of ten pages, quite another thing is to fix a site of 500 pages. I tried to restore from my backups, and tried to negotiate with technical support, well, nothing. They managed to fix something, but the overall picture was not pleasing.

I am not very strong in the technical side of the issue, I took ready-made engines for my sites. I used the two most popular ones - Joomla and Wordpress, and on the support forums, as a rule, all the tips came down to one thing - you need to buy a dedicated server, then these systems will work quickly, reliably and stably.

But, something told me that there is a simpler and less costly solution. Well, what's the point in additional investments, if the work is already unstable, then what will happen next? We need to look for another solution, another approach.

Complicating the process is usually not the best solution, correct decisions you should always look in the reverse side, in the direction of simplification. By breaking the situation down into components, you can always find a way to change one thing, which will radically affect the whole process.

What were the components of this my situation?

• The first - this is hosting, with not the most better speed and stability of work.
• Second - this is the engine on which I made my sites.
• Well third - my technical background in PHP programming is not very good.

What options can you find here?

• The first - this is to invest in a dedicated server, host your sites on it, and continue to depend on the unpredictable consequences of the hardware operation, and increase the cost part many times over.
• Second- change the engine, find an option that would not be picky about hosting, and would work easily and stably under any conditions.
• Well third, to engage in a dense study of the programming language, to understand all the technical subtleties of the work yourself.

Which of these options is the easiest? I think it's not difficult to guess. Naturally - the second. We need to find a fundamentally different approach to creating sites, not cumbersome, cumbersome tools with many files and all sorts of additional bells and whistles, but a simple, lightweight, elegant solution.

Desire formulated, direction indicated, there is little left to do, to find information. And, naturally, this information came. A correct process differs from a wrong one in that the necessary links appear as needed.

“Quite by accident” I found a site where its owner, under the pseudonym Maestro, offers an easy, fast and not at all resource-demanding solution completely free of charge. Site engines, under the general name Rumba... The engine itself is less than a megabyte, there is no need for any databases that load the server, elementary management, the highest speed of work. This is what was required in the second point of my plan.

Not only that, I got quite a few pleasant experiences reading the support forum for this engine. Among the participants - respectful, correct attitude to each other. All the necessary points are calmly and intelligibly explained. No show-off and fanning fingers, no tricks for pumping out money, everything is explained calmly, in detail, with a good sense of humor.

The author himself has been leading this project for many years, the engines are constantly being updated. It can be seen that he is an expert in this matter enough high level... But, most importantly, in my opinion, the Maestro loves his job, and understands perfectly well that for a good result, for a good level, regular and painstaking work is needed. Which he successfully implements.

A little spicy detail. When I saw the page loading speed, I couldn't believe my eyes at first. It was 0.02 seconds. Each engine has a counter. How do you like this result?

There is only one small thing left - to thank the Maestro, and to implement their projects on Rumbe. Which I did with success.

If earlier this site occupied about 80 megabytes, today it is 4, and more than half is a visual editor that I installed for ease of use.