Where and how to find a nanny. Where to find a nanny for a child? What to look for when hiring a nanny

Agency "Lux Personnel" provides babysitting services for a child at a highly professional level, because each candidate undergoes a thorough police and medical examination, as well as psychological testing.

The cost of babysitting services for a child

Why us?

• The agency employs professional managers with extensive experience in this field.
• Recruitment of personnel according to the client's requirements
• We guarantee an unlimited number of personnel replacements during the entire term of the contract
• We select a replacement as soon as possible (on the same day or a few days, depending on the client's wishes)
• If necessary, it is possible to freeze or renew the contract for other personnel

Nanny's choice: master class from Channel 1 and our nanny Larisa

Nanny duties

• Caring for a small child and walking with him in the fresh air
• Cooking and feeding
• Leisure organization
• Keeping toys, baby clothes and other items clean
• Cleaning the room
• Accompanying additional classes and sections
• Help with homework preparation
• Developmental activities

What do you need to know?

• Do you need a nanny with accommodation? A few tips when choosing

Finding a nanny today is not so difficult, but when conducting a personal conversation with applicants, you should pay close attention to a number of factors that can tell a lot. In particular, a good nanny for a child should not be late for a meeting, must listen carefully to all the information, show genuine interest in the peculiarities of his upbringing, regime, etc.

Particular care should be taken when selecting a nanny who will care for the baby. In this case, she must have specific skills, experience and be reliable enough for such a responsible job.

Nanny duties for a child

Taking care of a small child and walking with him in the fresh air, cooking and feeding, organizing his leisure time, keeping toys, children's clothes and other things clean, cleaning the room - today a nanny is needed to fulfill these duties. In cases where you need her to additionally deal with any other matters, you should discuss this in detail before concluding the contract.

Today, sometimes it is enough to enter the query “looking for a nanny in Moscow” into a search engine on the Internet, so that it will display an extensive list of announcements and contact information. However, in order to have absolute confidence in the reliability and honesty of the person you are going to entrust your child to, you should contact a specialized recruitment agency. In the company "Lux Personnel" you will be provided with a list of candidates who have passed all the necessary checks and have the necessary skills and knowledge.

Each child needs an individual approach, so you need to choose a nanny who will take into account the child's characteristics, have a pedagogical or medical education and, of course, be kind.

If you need a nanny to care for your baby, then we will provide only a trusted person who has professional massage skills and other useful abilities.

With the help of a professional nanny, an older child will be able to reveal his talents and raise his intellectual level, with her he will be able to engage in various outdoor games. She will fully prepare the child for entering school and teach the basics of a foreign language.

How to find a nanny for a child?

When searching, you should clearly define the schedule of her work and, based on this, select a suitable candidate. If you firmly decided that you need a nanny with accommodation, then you can be calm: the child will always be surrounded by care, such a nanny will never be late and will not take time off from work, she will also be able to provide assistance in various household chores for an additional payment.

It is very difficult to find a nanny for a child on your own by submitting advertisements to print and electronic publications, and besides, there is a certain risk. Indeed, in this case, you can easily contact scammers or simply unreliable people, from whom there will be much more harm than good.

That is why it is strongly recommended to contact only specialized recruiting agencies for the selection of any domestic personnel. When you come to Lux Personnel, you can be sure that all candidates will have an excellent reputation. We carry out their selection taking into account all the requirements and conditions that you personally set. You will be able to conduct face-to-face interviews with each candidate and choose from them the one that suits you and your child in the best way.

The nanny, whom our recruiting agency will help you choose, will be a reliable assistant for you in raising your child.

If you have any questions, we will be happy to answer them by phone:

Our regular columnist told us about why she needed a nanny, despite the fact that her own mother was not opposed to taking care of her granddaughter. You can read about this in the column "Grandma or Nanny: 4 Myths I Want to Debunk Right Now".

"Letidor" asked Nuria to tell in more detail how the search for a nanny for little Safira went and what, based on her own experience, she can advise other parents.

Nuria Arkhipova

Finding a nanny is not as easy as it might seem at first glance. As soon as I decided to take an assistant, several questions arose before me at once:

1.** Where to look: ** on the Internet or on an acquaintance?

2.** Which nanny is better: ** a woman aged (40-50) or a young (under 30)?

3. How important availability of pedagogical education at the nanny?

4. Does the fact matter the nanny has her own children? Does this fact affect the attitude towards pupils? Or is it more important to find someone who just loves children?

5.** How to pay: ** every day, once a week or monthly? Should you prefer an hourly rate or a daily rate?

6. And, despite the fact that I have conducted more than one job interview in my life, I thought: what to look for when hiring a nanny?

7. The state of health of the future nanny: is it necessary medical certificate?

8.** How to monitor babysitting **?

Where to look for a nanny

Despite the fact that I was extremely determined, I cannot deny that I was not tormented by vague doubts. It's okay to worry and worry about your children.

Initially, the search for a nanny was carried out with the help of specialized recruitment agencies, of which there are quite a few on the market today. I stopped at one of the most popular sites that specialize in the selection of nannies. On it, there were filters by criteria, and an interactive map showing nannies in the district, and the presence of reviews from former employers. In addition, on the site, you could immediately familiarize yourself with age, education, experience, find out what kind of work schedule suits them and whether it coincides with your preferences.

True, an independent search for a nanny on the site is not a free service: to find a nanny, you need to pay 1290 rubles.

It seems to me that the money is lifting, and you can spend it to get full access to the database and passport data of applicants. So, with the question of where to look, we figured it out.

Nanny age

As for the age, I considered at least 40 years.

It seems to me that a nanny is younger, especially if she has her own children, who may be still small, will be more distracted by her children. A woman over forty has sufficient life experience, is more responsible, as a rule, has adult children and experience in raising them.

I decided that the upper age limit is strictly 55 years old.

Children grow up quickly enough, you will not notice how the child turns one year old, and he begins to walk, and then run. Therefore, the nanny should be, in my opinion, a woman active enough to, if the need arises, run after the child.

And in general, quick reaction and mobility, as you yourself understand, are very important when it comes to babies - before you have time to look back, everything that was found nearby is dragging into your mouth.

Availability of pedagogical education

While the child is small (1-3 years old), in my opinion, pedagogical education is not a basic necessity. It is desirable but not required. But the teacher will not hurt a three-year-old child.

But what is needed for a baby is a nanny's medical education.

She should know how to lower the temperature, with what drugs to stop the first symptoms of a cold, in general, she can distinguish when a child is naughty, and when he is mischievous because he is sick. Such a nanny knows everything about complementary foods: when and what can be introduced, she will quickly understand if a child has an allergy to something.

Another great bonus, in my opinion, is professional massage skills for children under one year old.

It is very important to do gymnastics and massage with kids - this has a great effect on both physical and emotional development.

The nanny has her own children

Having children of her own, in my opinion, is a good bonus for a woman, because it means that she has her own motherly experience.

In some reviews on the Internet, I saw advice that it is imperative to inquire about the nanny's marital status, whether she has children, how old they are, what they do, where they live. In general, to find out how much she took place as a mother.

But it seems to me that a woman's wealth as a mother has nothing to do with her professional skills.

For me, having children is not a priority. If a woman loves children, knows how to get along with them, has extensive experience in caring for babies, which is confirmed by the positive recommendations of previous employers, has a medical and / or pedagogical education, then the absence of her own children will not be a reason for me to refuse her a job.

How to pay

On the website, each nanny-applicant has a tariff in the "Payment" column.

The average price in Moscow today is 300 rubles per hour. You can find it cheaper - 150 rubles / hour, and more expensive - 350-450 rubles / hour.

You can choose a nanny with accommodation - here everyone proceeds from what is convenient for him. For me, the hourly pay and the nanny, who geographically lives not so far from us, turned out to be an excellent solution to all problems: she comes at the agreed time, spends a certain number of hours with the child and leaves.

By the way, in advance, you can negotiate with the nanny about help with the housework and the implementation of some errands. Of course, I am opposed to the nanny doing household chores to the detriment of taking care of the child - it is more important for me that the baby is under constant supervision. But sometimes I give her some instructions.

It is also worth talking to the nanny in advance about overtime, possible overnight stays, and feeding the baby. How the child will eat is a very important question. You have to think over everything in detail, because preparing food for a baby takes time. And the aptitude test would be a good idea for a potential nanny if you want your child to eat outside of cans.

We have solved this problem by itself: a responsible chef who monitors the quality of dishes, we have a grandmother. But the nanny cooks and feeds Safira at the same time - that was my condition when hiring.

What to look for when hiring a nanny

At an interview with a nanny, attention should be paid to EVERYTHING: how he behaves, how he speaks, how he is dressed, how correct his speech is, how he smells.

Despite the fact that our nanny is by and large coming, she comes to our house every day. She spends several hours with Safira and with those who are at the moment at home.

You need to understand that by hiring a nanny, you find a new family member who will be with you and your baby for a fairly long period of time. Therefore, be attentive to the smallest details.

Even if you are satisfied with everything - age, education, experience, recommendations - but you feel that something is wrong, that your soul does not lie, then it is better to refuse and continue your search.

At the interview, you do not need to hesitate to ask for certificates, diplomas and other documents. Ask for a recommendation and be sure to call those phones that a potential nanny will provide you with. Meticulously find out everything, including the family situation: with whom he lives, what he does. If a woman does not live alone, but, for example, with children and grandchildren, you can ask why she does not deal with them.

But something else is more important: children of preschool and school age often get sick, the nanny will in this case be a constant source of infections for your child. You need it? I think no.

So the potential nanny's marital status is just as important as her skills and education.

Medical certificate

A medical record is required! I'm sure you understand why. In kindergarten and school, a teacher will not be allowed to see a cannon shot at children if he does not have a medical permit, appropriate tests and all possible vaccinations.

If you fear that her certificate is invalid or purchased, offer to go get tested and visit the doctor together.

We offer babysitting assistance for caring for your baby. Our nannies have experience of similar work in Moscow families and the necessary knowledge. They are responsible, punctual and really love children!

Complete child care.

Fulfillment of the daily routine. Hygiene, hardening, water treatments. Walks in the open air. Escort to sections and circles. Child protection and protection, prevention of accidents at home. Development according to the tasks of the kindergarten, educational games and activities. Cooking delicious healthy baby food and feeding. Baby clothes and footwear care, delicate washing and ironing. Cleaning the children's room and keeping the toys clean. Teaching the child to put things in order and maintain cleanliness. Washing of children's dishes (sterilization as needed) Preparation for entering school (if necessary), acquaintance with the skills of reading, writing and correct speech. Learning to play musical instruments (by agreement). Classes in various foreign languages ​​(by agreement). Additional tasks and responsibilities (by agreement).

Babysitter

from 350 rubles / hour

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Nanny with accommodation

from 60,000 rubles / month

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Nanny for two or more children

from 500 rubles / hour

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Part-time nanny

from 350 rubles / hour

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When hiring a nanny, our clients often ask if they have the right to expect a nanny to do something about the house in addition to her direct duties? For example, having put the child to sleep during the day, the nanny could wash the floors in the apartment or clean the bathroom.

Of course, our agency provides the services of nannies, housekeepers, but as a rule, the salary of such an employee is slightly higher, because you have to combine two responsibilities. Partial cleaning duties are added to babysitting services.

Nanny with functions of a housekeeper

from 250 rubles / hour + housekeeper's wages

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Accompanying a child to a kindergarten or school, to various circles and sections, organizing the child's leisure time and his safety until his parents come home from work. Such a nanny can also help the student with his homework.

Does your child go to kindergarten or school, attends a section or circle, but you cannot always pick him up on time? Take advantage of the "babysitting for an hour" service or invite a nanny to accompany you.

The nanny is your assistant who will meet the child after school and take him to the sports section, then bring him home and warm up the lunch. By additional agreement, she can spend time with the baby until the evening, until the parents return from work.

Nanny for escort

from 350 rubles / hour

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Full care, which includes cleaning the children's room, washing, ironing children's clothes, taking care of children's toys, preparing children's dishes, ensuring hygiene, observing the child's day regimen and carrying out appropriate procedures, developing the child by age.

A nanny for babies (from birth to one year old) is a specialist with medical and pedagogical education and experience in working with newborns. This is an attentive, patient, caring helper. This is a person who will actively participate in the development of the baby in the first stages of his life, as well as help parents to overcome the first difficulties.

A nanny for children of this age is invited to help in a variety of matters. This can be walking with the baby, assistance in carrying out hygiene procedures, monitoring the daily routine and diet. The duties of a nanny include the first lessons with children and just visual control of the kids.

Babysitting is often necessary when the baby's mom and dad are busy at work or have to devote a lot of time to other family members. In addition, a child of the first year of life requires very serious attention to himself, and even if the parents are busy only with him, help will not be superfluous.

Nanny for a newborn

from 350 rubles / hour

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Parents often do not want to send toddlers of two to five years old to kindergarten. Instead, they prefer to find a nanny who will look after the child and help him explore the world. This is a very reasonable decision, because with an individual approach, the child develops much better psychologically and intellectually.

The nanny-educator will be able to reveal the child's abilities and talents more quickly if she deals with only one, and not two dozen other children.

When inviting a nanny-educator, parents can be calm about their child: the teacher will walk with the child and feed him, teach the baby and play with him, follow his menu and daily routine. In addition, a home educator has experience working with preschoolers and is proficient in various developmental techniques.

The child will be interested with such a friend, and the parents will be sure that their child receives maximum attention and that his abilities will not go unnoticed.

Nanny-educator

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Of course, the list of services that a nanny can offer you largely depends on the age of her ward. Nevertheless, leaving your child with a nanny, you can be absolutely sure that your baby will be fed, walk and play with him, bathe him and put him to bed when the time comes.

With older children, the nanny will work out reading, math and writing to prepare them for school. A child with our nanny will be easy and comfortable, he will be safe.

How is the selection of a nanny in the agency

To find a nanny, you need to fill out an application on the website or contact our manager by phone and tell us your wishes. Depending on the age of the child, place of work and some other aspects, the manager will select several of the most suitable candidates.

For a personal conversation, you can meet with one or all of the applicants at the office of our company, or conduct a video interview with a nanny over the Internet. If none of the candidates suits you, the manager will select several more candidates. A contract is concluded with a suitable candidate. If after the conclusion of the contract you understand that this particular nanny is still not suitable for you, then we will replace the employee.

Specialized agencies

In St. Petersburg, the number of well-known and respected agencies include such as "School of Kilchichakov's tutors", "Nanny Irena", "Dynasty", "Freken Bock" by Elena Tikhonova, "Yusi", "Mary Popins", "Your Aunt", "Kuma", "Moomin-dom", "Carlson", "Household staff", "Magic City".

All agencies have approximately the same scheme for working with clients: you leave an application for the selection of a nanny (hint: call yourself, requests through the website are rarely answered), select the submitted CVs, meet with candidates, take one of them for a paid trial period, if everything suits you, conclude an agreement with the agency and pay for its services.

Advantages:

saving time on the selection of candidates, any verification of candidates, replacing a nanny if she loses pleasure during the term of the contract (the number of free replacements for agencies is different), replacing a nanny in case of her vacation or due to illness by another employee.

Flaws:

an unspoken demand for full-time employment - it is almost impossible to find a part-time employee, the likelihood of refusal in urgent or, on the contrary, early search for a nanny, agencies "adjust" candidates to the client's request, their task is to employ all the workers who applied and receive payment for services, in addition to payment for work Babysitting is required to pay a fixed amount for services to the agency.

Remember that the agency is not responsible for any harm caused to you by the nanny who was picked up - you are her employer, the intermediaries do not bear any financial or criminal liability!

Zulya, nanny:

I advise parents not to trust agencies too much. If you need a nanny without a / n, and this is indicated in her resume, this does not mean that you have what you need in front of you. Once we came for an interview, there were 5 nannies. The family is elite, the salary is 65,000 rubles. + accommodation. The agency "sold" one of us, who smoked 3 cigarettes half an hour before the meeting. The worst thing is that the nanny and the agency blatantly lied to the employer.

Espinetka, nanny:

Don't assume that agencies are really checking references. It is more profitable for them to close the vacancy as soon as possible, and then tear off from us 50% of the first salary for employment. The agency staff will also help you with the "recommendations".

Vaverashka, employer:

I don't know if I was lucky, or if the stars coincided, but I'm happy with my agency. True, they were looking for a nanny for a long time, the baby had not yet been born, and I found fault, but the manager held out. Now they have also hired a housekeeper, I am also happy.

Private classifieds sites

Private classifieds sites are a good option if you have time to find suitable candidates. You can find those who maximally satisfy the requests or a variety of additional services - cooking, tutoring, sports, as well as find a part-time worker - a one-time service, several hours a day, only on weekends, during holidays, at night, etc. Car babysitting services are not uncommon - an employee has a license and a personal car, can take it to kindergarten / school / circles and pick it up. Groups in social networks are also the advantage of instant communication through correspondence, viewing the candidate's profile, reading reviews and prompt communication with their authors.

Other pluses:

the ability to search for an employee in your area thanks to filters on the site, no payment for services to an intermediary - an agency, no contractual obligations, a wide choice. Unfortunately, agencies carry out a fairly standard procedure for checking a candidate, below we will give an algorithm by which you can do it yourself and more thoroughly.

Flaws:

time spent searching and studying information, full responsibility for the selected candidate, the impossibility of replacing an employee (full-time) for the period of illness or departure, the development of individual agreements on wages, sick leave, vacation, if the nanny works full-time.

Olga, 23 years old:

I was looking for a summer job and it occurred to me to work as a nanny. By that time, I had been working as a counselor in a children's camp for several years in a row, studied at the School of counselors - I studied the basics of child psychology, pedagogy, first aid, and more, and in general I loved children and enjoyed communication. I posted an ad on the Avito website, and a couple of days later the call rang. Surprisingly, I got to work in a wealthy family, they could easily afford a good agency or a better prepared candidate, but they decided to stay with me. They paid well, paid extra for overtime or urgent calls, paid for a taxi home if they worked late. I walked with my child twice a day, tried to run more and do light exercises, fed me lunch, taught me how to draw, count, came up with different games, made gifts to my parents with my own hands. Both sides were satisfied, so I can safely say that as a nanny can find a good family, so the family can be satisfied with a candidate found through an ad on the Internet.

Survey of friends and acquaintances

Employees of children's educational institutions

You can contact a kindergarten or preschool education circles and ask if there are teachers there who are ready to earn extra money or have retired and have time and desire.

Service cost and payment options

The payment for babysitting services depends on the amount of time worked and the set of duties and requirements. The more hours and the more stable the schedule, the cheaper an hour of work is.

Consider babysitting for an infant. She must have a higher education (ideally - medical), medical courses and extensive work experience, must be able to do various massages, provide first aid and know what to do in emergency situations. The nannies' prices for babies are different, but the average price is 220 rubles per hour.

Nanny-educators work with children up to 7 years old. She should have a higher education, better pedagogical, so that she understands modern methods of education and understands which one is better to use. She should teach the child the rules of good behavior, self-care, and also know what to do with him. It is better to give preference to a candidate with experience in kindergarten or school. The average cost of a nanny of such a profile is 180 rubles per hour. The more work experience, the higher the price.

A rarer option is the governess, for children from 7 to 16 years old. Such a nanny should have a higher education and better not one. She should know the basics of psychology, foreign languages ​​and musical instruments. Her task is the all-round development of the child, assistance in preparing homework, visiting exhibitions, galleries, theaters, etc. The price of such a nanny's services is from 200 to 300 rubles per hour. If the family has two children, then the cost increases. On average, it is 300 rubles per hour.

The nanny for the escort earns less than the others; she only has to meet the child from kindergarten or school and take care of him until the parents arrive. The cost of services is no more than 150 rubles per hour, you can find it for a lower price.

A weekend nanny is needed less often, her duties will include feeding, playing with the child, walking, and going to bed. Such an employee can be found at a price of 200 rubles per hour, and it will be a highly qualified employee.

A foreign nanny is usually hired to prepare the child for the move abroad. She can be a native speaker, but must also know the child's native language. The cost of such a nanny is from 2000 euros per month and more.

Hiring a full-time nanny with a fixed salary is a certain responsibility. For such a nanny, your home is the main workplace. Such an employee counts on a number of advantages:

• stable schedule;
• payment for vacation or sick leave (at least partial, standard - 50%);
• payment of downtime due to the fault of the employer (for example, the departure of the family on vacation).

The agencies have different payment terms (including you can choose to pay per day or with accommodation), it is necessary to discuss these points with the nanny through a private advertisement before she goes to work. By and large, this will be an individual solution for each case.

How to check a candidate

The applicant must have the following basic documents:

• passport of a citizen of the Russian Federation (if not, then there must be a document confirming the legality of being on the territory of Russia);
• educational documents (including certificates of completion of special courses);
• work book or other documents confirming work experience (for example, recommendations from employers, employment contracts);
• medical documents confirming the state of health.

Additional documents include any papers that characterize the candidate. These can be gratitude, certificates, photographs, etc. Nannies who love their profession often collect whole "portfolios" of photographs of pupils, their drawings, children's handicrafts and other things.

If any documents are missing, the applicant must explain a reasonable reason. There was a case at the agency when the nanny did not have a residence permit in her passport, but she presented a contract for the purchase of an apartment in which, for technical reasons, she had not yet been registered. If the passport is not available, there must be a copy of the passport, international passport, confirmation of the submission of replacement documents, etc.

What to look at in your passport:

• the document must be kept clean and tidy, the information must be readable;
• first page - passport must not expire! Also compare the date of issue of the passport and the date of birth - the document changes at 20 and 45 years old, due to marriage. If there are any discrepancies - a reason to ask questions and get reasonable answers;
• the second page contains the full name, date and place of birth, photograph - make sure that you are in front of the owner of the document;
• registration on the fifth page - there should not be long breaks between the dates of check-out and registration, if there is a year, two, three, ask why. There have been cases of identifying candidates who have served time;
• page 14 - marital status - the subject of conversation, in what status the candidate. The more stable the situation, the calmer the work with the child;
• page 16-17 - children, if there are little ones - will the nanny have enough time for yours, who is looking after her children?

Education documents can be as follows:

• basic education, not necessarily pedagogical (check the full name, find out why the nanny went into this profession, why she decided to change her occupation - this will help to form an impression of her as a person);
• additional education, pedagogical (find out more about the educational institution, ask why the nanny went to get education - additional knowledge for raising her children, changing the profession, just free courses, etc. - get an idea of ​​the nanny's attitude to the profession);
• improvement of pedagogical qualifications (find out which direction in pedagogy the nanny has chosen, how it will help or, on the contrary, hinder your child - perhaps you are raising an athlete, and the nanny would like to raise a musically gifted child).

The work book is usually available from the nanny, although many now work under contracts. If you are not employed, since the person is listed somewhere, say, at a quarter of the rate - ask for a copy of the document; if he worked under contracts - there should also be copies; brought up children - there should be entries about them in the passport.

As a reminder, the owner's name must match the one indicated in the documents.

What should be alerted in the work book:

• too frequent job changes, most likely, this is a conflict person, or has problems with alcohol, or family;
• dismissal "under the article": truancy, service inconsistency, violation of discipline;
• the work became less qualified every year;
• long breaks in seniority - raising children (check this fact), moving with a military husband or diplomat (you can also check) will be a reasonable answer;
• frequent change of profession - ballet dancer, accountant, photographer, etc.

Positive points:

• manifestation of stability - one and the same workplace with a long experience;
• professional growth;
• last page - thanks and encouragement.

• the age of the previous pupil - is this experience suitable for your child, what responsibilities the nanny performed;
• the tone of the recommendation is a dry standard text; the reason for the conversation with the candidate.

After reading the recommendation, make a copy and rewrite the coordinates of the employer, let him know that you want to talk with him. If the nanny is unhappy, she avoids answering - a reason to be wary and continue questioning. Be sure to contact previous employers.

An experienced nanny or just a reasonable person will not be surprised by your request to provide a fresh fluorography or certificates of the absence of infections (as standard - HIV, hepatitis, syphilis). If there are none, you can offer to make them at your expense, the refusal should raise suspicion. There should be no skin diseases, at least visible to the naked eye. The ideal option is to present a fresh sanitary book.

Elena, HR manager of the agency:

We require a police clearance certificate, medical documents, we do not consider candidates from other cities. We ask for recommendations, we conduct psychological tests. In our opinion, work experience is required for nannies - pedagogical or medical.

When talking about checking, people often think of the so-called “blacklists of nannies”. St. Petersburg agencies exchange such lists for official use. They are also in the public domain, but the ethics and correctness of this remains in question - they contain a lot of unconfirmed and subjective information.

You can ask to issue a police clearance certificate - usually it takes about a month, but at your expense you can quickly get it through the Unified Document Center, about 3 working days.

Another common method of checking and monitoring is by installing a hidden camera. You will receive accurate information about the babysitting job and will be able to record videos to disk - in case of problems, you will have proof. But remember that a hidden camera is not a fair test option. If the nanny is a real professional and finds out about this, she can leave your family. This method is reliable, but it is up to you to use it or not.

Another test option is surprise. Return for "forgotten" things earlier than usual or in the middle of the working day. If the child needs to sleep, and he is playing or watching TV together, most likely you should not continue to cooperate.

But the easiest and most effective way to control a nanny is to look at your child's behavior. Whether bad habits or bad words have appeared, in what mood he is, how he relates to the nanny - whether he is happy about her arrival or runs away and hides, whether he gets upset when parting. Every day, ask your child what you did with the nanny, how you played, what you learned new, how to feed, etc. It is useful to ask questions in the presence of the nanny.

What else to pay attention to

Intuition is very important at an interview with a future nanny; if you have the slightest doubt, refuse to cooperate. An inner voice must confidently say that this person is exactly who you need.

Svetlana Izvetkova, psychologist:

you can ask a potential nanny what she will do if the child hits hard. How will she get out of difficult situations (for example, the child does not like to brush her teeth, dress, etc.)? What does she plan to do with the child, what games does she know? What if the child has a fever? Is it possible to punish a child, for what and how? After that, arrange a meeting between the child and the nanny. Observe how he behaves with her, whether you can find a common language.

At the first meeting, it is also important to evaluate the nanny's appearance. Warning signs:

• excessive fullness and shortness of breath, puffy face - such a nanny is unlikely to keep up with the child, pick it up, and can often bend over and squat;
• excessive thinness, pallor - may be signs of a tendency to fainting;
• unhealthy complexion, odor from the mouth - may indicate gastric diseases;
• back problems are diagnosed when walking, standing up. Such a nanny will not once again take a child in her arms, will not drag a bicycle out into the street, a bag with toys, etc.
• should have good eyesight and normal hearing. A bad sign - lenses with glasses as thick as a finger and everyday signs of deafness: too loud speech, constant questioning;
• no bad habits!

From the point of view of legislation, harm caused to a child by a nanny does not differ from any other harm to a citizen, whether intentionally or negligently. In such cases, civil liability (causing parents and the child moral harm or real damage in the form of expenses incurred) and criminal liability (beating (Article 116 of the Criminal Code), torturing a child (Article 117 of the Criminal Code), deliberate infliction of light, medium and serious harm health, negligence, leaving in danger, etc.). Audio and video recordings, testimonies of witnesses, including parents - for example, about the psychological state of the child, can be presented as evidence.

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Choosing a nanny for a child is not an easy and responsible business. This is the person with whom your child is left alone, who communicates with your child, cares for him and brings up him. Therefore, it is very important not to be mistaken with the choice. How should you choose the right nanny, what are they, what should you pay attention to when choosing?

Types of nannies

Child psychologists and parents have long divided all nannies into several conditional types. This division helps parents navigate what kind of nanny they need to look after the child. Moreover, a nanny for a baby and for a 5-year-old baby is very different from one another. Not every nanny is capable of looking after a baby or a five-year-old fidget with equal success. So, about types:

• Nanny with medical education (doctor or nurse). Medical education is a very valuable quality. Especially when caring for babies. A medical nanny is well versed in issues such as sterility, childhood illnesses and their symptoms, proper baby care, feeding. They are particularly accurate, in case of illness, the baby can provide him with competent primary care, massage, etc. Practice shows that medical nannies do not refuse to be with the baby not only during the day, but also at night. The main disadvantage of this category of nannies is that they look after the child more than they raise him. In the case of a baby, this is quite acceptable, but when he grows up, then the parents, most likely, will have to think about finding another nanny;
• Arina Rodionovna. So it is customary to call older women, most often pensioners. These nannies have many merits. They raised their own children, most likely they have grandchildren. Therefore, they have no experience in dealing with children. Usually they are extremely patient with the baby, they can clean the room and feed the baby deliciously. "Arina Rodionovny" love to walk with children for a long time, take them to zoos, museums and other places useful for the child. They willingly read books to the child and patiently answer children's endless "why". Old nannies usually have plenty of free time, and therefore they can work all day and even overtime. Their main disadvantage is the upbringing and treatment of the child "in the old fashioned way", as well as the desire to educate not only the baby, but also his parents. Another disadvantage is that it is usually difficult for the “nanny-grandmother” to help the child with the lessons;
• Students. They are also called “nannies for an hour”. They are young and therefore lack proper experience in caring for children. They usually have little free time, as they devote most of the day to study. Therefore, student nannies work on a case-by-case basis, regarding caring for someone else's baby as an occasional part-time job. Hence the appropriate attitude to work. Usually such nannies are hired when there are no other options;
• Professional nanny. This is usually a middle-aged woman who has worked as a nanny for many years. This is her main profession. She has a lot of experience, she worked with many children, she can provide recommendations from those families where she worked before. She knows how to find contacts with almost any child, as well as with his parents. A professional nanny can equally successfully communicate with children of any age - from babies to primary school students. She knows how to swaddle a baby, how to feed him or help him with an illness. A professional nanny can accompany a child when he and his parents travel long distances - for example, on vacation or abroad. With her, you can safely leave the child for a long time. A professional nanny is the best parenting choice.

When choosing a nanny, you should consider how long it is needed. If for several hours a day or 1-2 times a week, then a professional nanny is unlikely to agree to this. In this case, it is better to look for an old woman or a student.

Schedule

Babysitters may work on different schedules. In this sense, they are subdivided:

• Full-time nannies. These nannies work from morning to evening. That is, until the child's parents come home from work. Throughout the day, the nanny is with the child, feeds him, walks with him, puts him to bed, is engaged in teaching;
• At the evening nannies. As the definition suggests, they work in the evenings. Evening nannies meet the child from school or pick him up from kindergarten, prepare dinner for the child, feed him, put him to bed. Their working hours end when their parents come home;
• For nannies with accommodation. They usually live for the whole week with the family that hired them to look after the baby. In accordance with the agreement, the nanny with accommodation is given one or two days off. It happens that she is given a separate room. In other cases, she sleeps in the same room with the baby. In addition to caring for a child, a live-in nanny can also be engaged in other responsibilities: helping with housework, preparing food for the baby and his parents;
• For nannies daily. Daily nannies are usually needed when a child needs 24/7 supervision. Usually these are babies or sick children. For the most part, daily nannies work in shifts - day after day.

A separate category is accompanying nannies. They are usually hired when a mother with a baby (or several children) has to travel long distances. The duties of the accompanying nanny include taking care of the children during the trip, as well as looking after the little ones in a new place until they return back.

Nanny duties

Before you start looking for a nanny, you need to decide what her responsibilities will be. It is clear that not all childcare tasks can be assigned to a nanny. Something she does not know how to do, something she will not want to do for one reason or another. And in something else - no nanny, even the most qualified, can replace a mother: for example, in breastfeeding a baby. Therefore, first of all, you need to determine a list of the most important responsibilities, and solve all other nuances as they arise.

So the nanny should:

• Carry out complete baby care;
• Ensure its safety;
• Bathing the baby and fulfilling other hygiene requirements;
• Observe the daily routine: put the child to bed on time, walk with him;
• Prepare food for the baby and feed him;
• Monitor the sanitary order in the children's room;
• Accompany him while visiting circles, sports sections;
• Visit exhibitions, museums, attractions with him;
• Know the peculiarities of the child's developmental development and apply their knowledge in practice;
• Help your child (if he is a preschooler) get ready for school;
• Help the pupil-pupil in completing the lessons.

Additional requirements

Many parents try to find a nanny for their baby exclusively with a pedagogical education. Indeed, there are many virtues in a nanny-teacher. She knows the methods of child development, can understand music, be able to draw, know foreign languages, etc. She will teach the baby all this, as a result of which he will grow up as a fully developed personality. In addition, the nanny-teacher will be able to prepare the kid for school, and in the future help him with the lessons.

All these are the advantages associated with a nanny with a teacher education. However, there are also disadvantages here. Currently, some teachers (as well as psychologists) are trained in Western models of parenting, which in many ways do not coincide with our ideas and worldview. For example, many teachers now believe that a child should not be limited in anything, it is necessary to allow him everything, otherwise he will grow up to be a notorious and inferior personality. Therefore, before hiring an educator-teacher, you should carefully understand his worldview and methods of education.

A nanny with no pedagogical education. There are many more such nannies than with a teacher's diploma. They can be young girls, or they can be women in years. They usually do not have any methods of their own upbringing, and therefore it is much easier for them to explain the parental point of view on raising a baby. The only significant disadvantage is that it will be more difficult for a nanny without pedagogical education to prepare a child for school.

A woman who has children of her own. The main advantages of such nannies are their everyday experience and the ability to communicate with children. They will look after the child properly, feed him correctly and on time, answer all his questions, etc. At the same time, some nannies from this category may not listen to the wishes of the baby's parents, explaining this by the fact that, due to their experience, they are better know how to raise a child.

However, all of the above nuances are quite solvable. Much more important is another - what kind of nanny is a person. If she has a bad character, bad habits, limited horizons and inappropriate vocabulary, then it is better to refuse her services. The reasons for the refusal are quite understandable: when communicating with a dubious nanny, your child, willingly or unwillingly, will pick up from her those human qualities that she possesses.

How to find a nanny

1. The first and most common way is through newspaper or internet advertisements. There is, in fact, only one advantage here: this search method does not require large expenses, but there are plenty of disadvantages. Among those who submitted an advertisement there may be former nannies, expelled for serious misconduct from their former places, as well as nannies with no experience. Another category is the so-called “lovers of other people's husbands” or thieves who are looking for ways to get into someone else's house in order to rob it later. Therefore, it is more reasonable to hold the first meeting with such applicants not at home, but somewhere on neutral territory.
2. The second way is to search through recruiting agencies. There are much more advantages here: agencies can offer you an impressive list of candidates for every taste, along with characteristics, recommendations, medical certificates. But at the same time, there are also enough disadvantages: you have to pay for the agency's services, many candidates are nannies only from their own words, some may have fake documents. In addition, you should not indiscriminately trust the recruitment agencies themselves. There have been cases that some agencies deliberately went on to deceive clients, trying to connect them not with professionals in their field, but with random people.
3. The surest way to find a nanny is through the recommendations of your acquaintances, colleagues, friends, relatives. Usually none of them would recommend a bad candidate. You will know almost everything about such a nanny: her habits, abilities, marital status, place of residence, work experience. There is only one significant minus here: if you refuse her for some reason, then you risk ruining your relationship with those who recommended her.

How to properly meet a nanny

Getting acquainted with the nanny, you should carefully look at all the little things. This is understandable: it is to her that you will entrust the most precious thing you have - your child. First of all, you need to pay attention to the appearance of a candidate for a nanny for your baby. If she looks untidy, this is a good reason to refuse her.

After a visual acquaintance, it is recommended to ask the candidate a few general questions. These can be questions on a variety of topics: does she know how to cook, what dishes does she do best, does she like to walk, can she take the child to the section or clinic, what were her duties in the same place, how did she get along with the child there and his parents, etc. Do not hesitate to ask her for her passport and medical certificates. You should also carefully read the letters of recommendation and call those phone numbers that are indicated in them.

In the event that the meeting is taking place in your home, it is wise to invite other members of your family, as well as your child, to it. Conclusions about what a candidate is, must be done from the very first step in your home. Whether she came on time, whether she greeted you and the child, how sincere she is in the conversation, etc. When she leaves, you need to develop a generalized opinion and decide together whether this candidate is suitable as a nanny for your baby.

After general questions, you need to get to know the future nanny better by asking her more specific questions.

1) Questions about previous work:

• What responsibilities did you perform in your previous job?
• Why didn't you start working there?
• How easily do you adapt to a new family?
• How long does it take for children to get used to you?
• What don't you love to do as a nanny?

2) Questions of a personal nature:

• How old are you?
• Do you have any education?
• What is your marital status?
• Do you have children and what is their age?
• If the children are minors, who will stay with them while you are at work?
• Do you have any hobbies and which ones?
• Are you a believer and what religion do you profess?
• How do you spend your free time, and what is your social circle?

3) Questions about health:

• Do you have chronic medical conditions?
• Can you lift your baby in your arms?
• Do you have bad habits?
• How long have you had fluorography?
• Do you agree to undergo additional medical examination?

4) Discussion of future responsibilities:

• Can you stay if necessary?
• Do you agree to work on weekends?
• Do you agree to accompany the child in case of his departure with his parents to the dacha, to another city, to another country?

5) Discussion of payment terms:

• What salary are you expecting?
• How do you want to be paid - every day, once a week, monthly?
• How do you feel about fines for absence or lateness?

6) Discussion of behavior in emergency situations:

• What do you intend to do if the child chokes, faints, cries and is capricious, behaves inappropriately, gets sick (the list of situations can be continued)?

7) Questions with background:

• What games can you play with your child at any given age?
• What are the reasons babies cry?
• What do you do if the child pisses you off?
• What is the most important thing for you when caring for and communicating with your baby?

And, of course, you should not discount your own maternal intuition. It is she who should be the decisive condition of whether to accept this or that candidate as a nanny or refuse her.

How to introduce a nanny to a child

So, the nanny-to-be made a positive impression on you. However, this is not a reason to immediately recruit her. You need to make sure how your child will treat the candidate. This should be the last argument in your decision about whether your child needs such a nanny or not.

Observe your child's reactions closely. If he has a sociable character, then after what time will he try to get to know the nanny better? If, on the contrary, the baby is uncommunicative, then how will the nanny behave in this case in order to win him over? If at first the child is afraid of the nanny, but thanks to her efforts then nevertheless begins to show interest in her, then this is an absolute plus for the nanny.

It is not necessary at the very beginning to leave the baby with a nanny for a long time. It will be more reasonable if the child gets used to it gradually. At the same time, the child should try to explain that the nanny is a very good aunt who will teach him how to play, draw, walk with him, ride on merry-go-rounds, etc. Believing in your explanations, the child will be able to get used to her faster. And the last condition: when hiring a nanny, you must conclude an official employment contract with her.

How to monitor babysitting

There should be no objection that the nanny's work needs to be monitored. The question is how to do it right. First, inept control makes it difficult to achieve any concrete results. Secondly, in this way you can offend the nanny.

The main method of control is close observation of the child. If he sleeps restlessly at night, is not happy with the nanny or is afraid of her, then this is already a reason to think about and strengthen observations. If the baby, barely seeing you, begins to cry and seeks to run away from the nanny, then this is another reason for parental thoughtfulness. Additional reasons may also be that for a long time your baby has not learned anything new, he has incomprehensible bruises and scratches, the nanny behaves ingratiatingly in front of you, etc. If such signs regularly appear, it is better to leave the nanny.

If you come home unexpectedly, you can get good results. Or - the same unexpected appearance at the house of your friends and relatives. It is also good to talk from time to time with neighbors who can see exactly how the nanny communicates with your child. Some parents even hire private detectives for such purposes.

There is another tried and tested way to determine how good or, on the contrary, not good your baby's nanny. A good nanny is one whose baby comes back from a walk dirty, but at home he is always clean and washed. Everything is simple here. When a child walks fully, he usually always gets dirty. A full-fledged child can only walk when he feels comfortable with the nanny.

Recently, more and more often monitor the work of nannies with the help of video cameras. This is perhaps the most effective type of control. In the press and on TV, it is often reported that it was thanks to the video cameras that it was possible to expose the fanatics under the guise of nannies. It is better if the camcorders will be installed in several places. It is clear that the nanny herself should not know anything about video surveillance.

Don't be jealous of your little one

The baby gets used to a good nanny quickly. It so happens that he begins to call her "mom". This often leads to the fact that real mothers begin to be jealous of the child for the nanny. And for this reason she is fired. Thus, these mothers make a big mistake.

In this case, the feelings and psychology of the child are not taken into account. Being attached to someone is very important for him. And when that nanny, to whom the baby managed to become attached, disappears from his life, and a new one appears in return, this can cause serious stress in the baby. There is no need to be jealous of the child and be afraid that the nanny can really replace a real mother. If the nanny is a professional, and also a wonderful person, then she will always find a way to explain to your baby that the real mother is you, and no one else.

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