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Who likes whiners and grumblers, complaining about everything and dissatisfied with everything in the world? That's right, nobody.

Therefore, you need to set yourself up for positive daily, early in the morning, to shine like the sun and enjoy new horizons. It is the positive energy that nourishes the body from the inside that makes life brighter, healthier and more optimistic!

But when there is a serious test ahead (interview, mother-in-law's anniversary, wedding, renovation or going to the authorities for a higher salary), it is quite difficult to tune in to a positive outcome.

And if there is slush outside the window, and hormones are seething inside, you can not count on positive energy.

Some, in addition to everything else, are characterized by increased suspiciousness and depression, it is more difficult for them to drive away dark thoughts than for others. One click in the head - and the world is again seen as gray and sad, hopeless and bleak.

In this article, we will teach you to leave the negative behind, tune in to the positive and let only positive emotions into your ship.

Make a decision, say "Stop"

You can break the chain of negativity by an effort of will: in the end, it is you who are the author of your fairy tale. And it's up to you to decide who the story will be about - about a strong and courageous princess or about a grouchy goblin.

It is important to understand that all these depressive tunes are bad for health. Chronic diseases are aggravated, new ones appear, which makes life appear in even darker colors.

As soon as you learn to speak and think positively, your health will improve. This will give you strength to consolidate the result.

Start small - with your own words.

Even without really believing in success, say out loud “I will succeed”, “we are waiting for a happy ending”, “this is definitely for the better”, “I can handle it, of course”.

Speak loudly and firmly, trying to believe it and smile.

At first, of course, you will be cunning and deceiving yourself. But let yourself play this strange game, and in a week or two it will no longer be a lie.

The Universe Responds to Your Mood

They say that the boat will sail as it is called. Say about yourself "I'm a loser, no one will love me like that," and your personal life will immediately be covered with a copper basin.

Let's stand in front of the mirror this morning and say something different. For example, a positively optimistic mantra or affirmation:
“I am a damn charming, smart, purposeful girl with an easy character and in the prime of life.

There are no obstacles on my path, it is filled with joy, love and beauty, and I am happy to follow it. My goals are real and desirable, and therefore they are achievable.

I will cope with the tasks that I set for myself, because I am a great smart girl (“athlete”, “Komsomol member”, “excellent wife”, “caring mother”, “best daughter in the world”, “irreplaceable employee” ... underline as necessary) ".

Say "No" to complaining, jealousy and anger

When we say “I'm unlucky, I won't succeed”, we justify our inaction and possible failures in advance.

For many, this gives life comfort: you can get angry because of nonsense, envy the lucky ones, complain about everything and do nothing. Nice?

If you are worried about real problems (threatening dismissal, impending divorce, discord with a girlfriend, betrayal, guilt), do not hang on the vests of colleagues and relatives. Consult a psychologist who will help you speak competently and productively.

If the problems are contrived, rather throw them into an imaginary chest and nail the lid!

Look for the positive in the outside world

Think about what brings joy to your home. Chocolate, a set of mouth-watering rolls, an adorable series about Sherlock, a bottle of white semi-sweet, a romantic dinner with your husband, assembling Lego alone with your child, an evening workout in a half-empty gym to exhaustion?

Sign up for a massage course, buy a pool membership, order a handmade cake just for yourself… Any means are good in the war for a positive attitude!

Rejoice in the little things, and try to ignore misfortunes, even large ones (or perceive them as a step towards something new and better). Usually people do the opposite, not seeing the beauty around, not understanding how important a child's smile, a delicious dinner and an interesting book are.

But a broken heel or a fleeting conflict with a colleague deprive balance for a long time. The beautiful world has the right to be offended for such an unfair attitude towards itself!

Imagine yourself in a vacuum

In order for the positive to penetrate your life, you need to prepare a platform for it. First, we clear the inner space, throwing out all unnecessary rubbish - doubts, worries, painful thoughts, manias, feelings of guilt, and so on.

A good exercise is offered by psychologists. Imagine yourself inside a transparent cosmic sphere, behind a thin but strong shell.

And not a single thought, neither good nor bad, can break through it and disturb you.

Imagine thoughts as bodily objects and push them away from you by force of will, not allowing yourself to think about them.

Another option is to imagine an old janitor with a long shaggy broom, diligently sweeping all negative thoughts out of your inner space.

"Shurkh! Shorkh! Shurkh! Shorkh! his broom flies melodiously, and you feel only the freshness of the morning and the joy of cleansing.

Such exercises should be performed before going to bed, for 30 minutes, without allowing any thoughts to come to you. So you will spend the night calmly, without nightmares, insomnia and worries, and in the morning you will be able to quickly tune in to the positive.

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But not everyone knows how to be an optimist and enjoy life, and few people think that this can also be learned.

Learn how to have a positive attitude towards life clinical psychologist Elena Kharitontseva.

A little about emotions

Human emotions are a certain mental process that reflects a person's attitude both to himself and to the world around him. Emotions are divided into two poles: positive and negative, and both bring us some benefit. In the absence of any emotions, a person becomes bored - and irritation appears, which is also an emotion. The complete absence of emotions is a sign of a mental disorder, sometimes very deep. What is important is the intensity with which emotions are experienced by a person and how adequately he behaves at the time of their experience.

Scientists have identified three types of emotional stimuli: neutral, positive and negative.

Emotionally neutral stimuli are what makes us function: wash our faces, brush our teeth, put our appearance in order, fulfill our physiological needs. Normally, neutral stimuli occupy about 60% of our lives and create the prosperous environment in which we live. If neutral stimuli in everyday life become excessive or emotionally significant (obsessive handwashing, etc.), then a state of neurasthenia develops, and the stimuli cease to be neutral.

Positive stimuli that cause positive emotions should normally be about 30%, and negative - 5%, maximum 7%. If there are more negative emotions, the human body ceases to cope with them, and in this case, help may be required to overcome the negative - either the person himself, or the help of loved ones, or the professional help of a psychologist or psychotherapist. But in a small amount, negative emotions are needed - they help to better experience the beauty of life and the depth of positive emotions. If there are few negative emotions, they become a surmountable barrier, and under their influence we begin to concentrate better on solving the problem, think, think, act faster and thereby improve. But if there is too much negativity, not everyone can cope with this flow.

We save optimism

Positive emotions are especially important for us: we need them the most, so people, even in the most difficult circumstances, even on the verge of life and death, can see and perceive something beautiful, even if it is small. In fact, each person can learn to see and accumulate positive moments that will help him develop a positive attitude towards life. Of course, a convinced pessimist can hardly be turned into an optimist, but everyone can learn to pay attention to the positive aspects and positive aspects of life. This will help to fill everyday life with bright joyful colors and thereby improve the quality of life in general.

The main positive emotions are interest and joy. Interest is the main stimulus for the development of a person as a person, so the lack of interest is a very disturbing sign: it means that not everything is in order with a person. Lack of interest leads to depression and other mental problems. Joy is a state of satisfaction with the world around and the feeling that a person can cope with any difficulties and fully enjoy life. But joy has nothing to do with material or mercantile interests - it is rather a feeling: for someone the glass is half full, and this causes joy, but for someone it is half empty. If a person does not experience joy in his activities or in communicating with others, he tries to experience it in overcoming fear, hence the passion for extreme sports or hobbies associated with danger arises.

Repeated joy increases resilience to stress and makes our lives more fulfilling: the more positive emotions a person has in his life, the better he feels. But there is also the "concept of prediction": things happen because we expect them to happen. That is, if a person expects something bad, then this bad thing is likely to happen. And if we are tuned to the positive, then with a high probability everything will be fine. The following tips will help you learn to have a positive attitude towards life.

Tip one: develop a positive perception. To set yourself up in a positive way, you need to learn to enjoy small things - good weather outside the window, the aroma of hot coffee in the morning, the smile of a child you meet on the street. Such trifles, which we rarely pay attention to, set us on a positive note, so it is important to learn to notice them.

Tip two: notice joyful and positive events in life. These can also be small or even insignificant events and moments - a meeting with a friend, a new haircut, a letter from an old acquaintance, praise from the boss, a good mark from his son. It is best to keep a diary and write down such events at the end of the day. It is a pity that not everyone is ready to do this. In this case, you can always look through your notes and remember what good happened yesterday, the day before yesterday, a week ago. Then there will be a feeling that a lot of good things are happening to you and in general everything in life is not so bad.

Tip three: summarize the day. It is very helpful to write down every day what you were successful in that day. These may even be very insignificant successes at first glance, but thanks to them, a person’s self-esteem rises - and he begins to understand that he is doing well.

Tip Four: Keep a gratitude journal. Previously, religious people thanked the Almighty for food and shelter, but now few people offer such thanks to heaven, which is a pity: this is a very useful ritual. It is not necessary to do this in writing, you can thank you orally, for yourself. Instead of being upset that you don’t have many friends, tell yourself: how good it is that I have such a wonderful friend (even if only one)!

Tip five: learn to calmly accept your mistakes and blunders. We are all living people, and we all have the right to make mistakes. You should not reproach yourself for mistakes and set yourself up for failure or failure in advance.

Tip six: Take care of your appearance. For ourselves, it is very important how we look, even at a subconscious level. Special things make us special in our own eyes and help set the right accents. If you want to change something in your life or learn to relate to life more positively, start changing your wardrobe. This will be an occasion for positive emotions, and a new wardrobe will help you look at the world in a new way - more positively.

Tip Seven A: Reward yourself from time to time. You need to not only learn to celebrate what you excel in, but also reward yourself for it. In psychology, this is called stroking. For example, if a woman is constantly preoccupied with work, family and everyday problems, she may experience a feeling of being driven out, hopeless. To prevent this from happening, it is very helpful to periodically reward yourself for your efforts. You can, for example, sit alone in a cafe and eat a cake that you haven’t allowed yourself for a long time. This will help you maintain a positive attitude towards yourself.

Tip Eight: do what you want to do for a long time. It is very important to ask yourself the question: what do I want? These can be elementary things, which for various reasons do not reach the hands. Have you been wanting to read a book for a year, go to the pool, go to visit a friend? So do it eventually! Very often, the cycle of everyday affairs - work, family, children, parents - does not allow you to do what you want, but at the same time they create a certain "comfort zone" from which it is scary to leave. But when a person leaves this zone, he has new pleasant emotions that make life more complete and help to develop further.

Tip nine: do good deeds. Charity, selfless deeds, helping those who need it, will allow you to feel not alone, and your good deeds will return to you a hundredfold, because in this case, emotionally, you always receive more than you give.

Tip ten: SMILE! A positive attitude towards life begins with a smile. Smile to yourself when you look in the mirror, smile to others. Smiling is the simplest and most powerful weapon in the fight against negativity and pessimism.

Draw your dream

At first glance, it seems that these are all trifles, but life is made up of such trifles. Allowing yourself even small pleasures - whether it's a cake or a walk in the forest - you can make yourself happier, and your attitude towards life will become more positive. You can go further and draw your dream or hang in a conspicuous place photos of the place where you want to go: the mountains if you dream of skiing, the Eiffel Tower if you dream of going to Paris ... Such photos will set you up for positive, and you will have something to strive for.

Remember that a positive attitude helps not only to achieve your goals, but also to overcome serious difficulties: many doctors, including oncologists and surgeons, claim that wounds heal faster in optimistic patients, they tolerate treatment better and recover faster.

Greetings, friends!

Have you had a time when life dealt blow after blow and it was not clear where to expect a dirty trick next time? I'm in that period right now. How to tune in to the positive if everything is bad? After all, this can't happen forever, can it?

The world around us often gives us a reason for grief, unrest and despondency. But after all, how you don’t want to live, constantly worrying about something! But there are people who remain calm even in such difficult situations, when the rest give up. For you, for example, is the glass half full or half empty? Who are you - gloomy pessimists or resilient optimists? Why do some people, having received a “sour lemon” from life, do not grimace at it, but try to quickly make lemonade out of it and squeeze all the most positive out of this situation.

The secret of such people is in a special view of the world. After all, it is not the situation itself that matters, but how we react to it. Aren't you sorry to spend your life on worthless and empty experiences? So how do you get positive? After all, this can be learned. Just start doing five easy tasks.

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Learn to find the good in everything that happens to you. If you can't change the situation, change your attitude towards it. Suddenly, this minor nuisance will save you from a big trouble? And remember that "there are no insurmountable difficulties, there are difficulties that are too lazy to overcome."

Express emotions!

Do not try to keep everything in yourself, otherwise others will not know what is happening in your soul. If you have fun - laugh, if someone offended - do not keep it to yourself, say it. It is better to make a storm in a teacup than to have a volcano rage inside of you. This will help you keep your peace of mind.

Small pleasures

Let's remember what was the last time you did something nice for yourself, your beloved? Is it hard to remember? Understand! We are more likely to please our husband, children, parents or sisters, and maybe even friends. But for yourself there is rarely enough time, energy, and somehow everything is not up to yourself. But in vain! Accustom yourself to small pleasures (a flower, a delicious chocolate - but not for children, but for yourself, your beloved!) etc. Oh yes, and do not put off until tomorrow what you can please yourself with today!

Movement!

Have you noticed that people look more energetic, cheerful and cheerful? Because they know that movement is life! If you are suddenly attacked by blues or melancholy, urgently take your friends and run from the gym or ride bicycles! And the sadness will go away on its own.

Live now!

Everyone probably allowed such thoughts: “but then, for example, I will buy a car”, or “but in five years everything will work out for me, and I will immediately live for my own pleasure.” And did you have it? And why wait for this "sometime"? Live now! Do not look back at the past, do not think about the future, otherwise you will not notice that NOW is passing you by. Learn to be happy here and now.

Two people were looking out the same window
One saw rain and mud,
The other is green foliage,

Spring and blue skies...
Two people were looking out the same window...

Let's help each other get positive!

Can't get in a positive mood?

Have you noticed that children always smile and at the same time glow like the sun? And when adults smile and laugh? Only when there is a serious reason. What if, for example, you get up for work tomorrow morning and try to smile all day? At least what others will think about you: "someone hit with a dusty bag." And all this happens because we are too bogged down in our worries and problems and stopped smiling just like that, carefree, like children ... So how to find a reason to smile at a passerby on a gloomy day, how to tune in to positive thinking?

Man is a huge world in which good and evil, hatred and forgiveness coexist with ease. What is considered a victory and how to relate to defeat, each person determines for himself. Those who do not want to experience the pain of emotional wounds try to forget them as soon as possible or learn at least some lesson from the current situation. Others, on the contrary, reopen their wounds for a long time.

But after all, we create most of the problems with our attitude to life. Which of you is prevented from living by sad memories, worries about yourself, your future or your loved ones? Probably many. We seem to be unable to get out of this swamp. I am not at all suggesting that you give up your worries altogether. I just suggest not to dwell on it, learn to switch to something completely new. Don't let negative thoughts take over.

Do you want to become an optimist and develop a positive mindset?

Let's try to figure out how to do it together.

indulge your desires

When we became adults, we began to do many things, not only because we want to, but because we HAVE to. As a result, we accumulate nervous tension, overwork and negative emotions. How to deal with it? Indulge your desires from time to time. Buy ice cream and eat it on a bench in the park, leisurely and without thinking about how many calories it contains.

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For example, go skydiving or go to an Indian dance. Even if you only have enough for a couple of activities or jumps, you will undoubtedly experience new sensations, unknown before.

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Look around - because many do not even have what you have.

Watch the animals

Animals themselves make us smile and even laugh out loud. If you don't have a pet, watch your neighbor's dog or cat, or go to the zoo, for example.

Add flair to any event

Relive a celebration or an ordinary activity, approach them from an unexpected angle, and you will notice how easily and effortlessly you can cope with any task.

The good old movies of our childhood are another way to cheer up. Only films must necessarily have a happy ending, otherwise the effect will be the opposite.

For me, life-affirming films are:

Celebrate the positive around

Try to celebrate something positive around you every day. (for starters, you can even record). Every day look for something good nearby, and each time one more pleasant event. For example, yesterday you noticed the first green grass, today you heard the birds singing in the park and saw sparrows swimming in the first puddle. And tomorrow it is necessary to find already three positive moments around, and so on. Remember the old saying

"A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity, but an optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty"?

Learn to enjoy life

• Who rarely smiles cannot think optimistically. After all, have you noticed that when you are in a good mood, you involuntarily begin to smile at yourself and all passers-by? Therefore, in a bad mood - stretch your lips in a smile (even through force), and the muscles of the lips will send positive emotions to your brain. Then the whole body will tune in a positive way.
• In the most difficult or ridiculous situations, laugh at yourself. Your body will instantly get rid of nervous tension, you will be able to look at the problem from a different angle and do not give up.
• When do we give gifts? For birthdays, for the New Year, for March 8? And that's all ... And just like that? Just a present from the heart? The main thing is that the gift was from a pure heart, and even better - made by yourself. “If you feel bad, find someone who is even worse and. Then it will be much easier for you!”
• Remember how you behaved as a child when someone nearby pouted. What did they do about it? That's right - they grimaced and grimaced until the one with the “sour face” began to laugh heartily. Here, take this technique into service. As soon as the "lemon" appears, start sticking your tongue out in the mirror and grimacing. This childhood habit will instantly cheer you up.
• And one more piece of advice: be different, change more often, obey your inner instinct about what you should be today (strict and businesslike or a mischievous girl with ponytails). Only then will you feel the full inner freedom and will fully enjoy the course of life!

And remember: to frown, you have to use 43 facial muscles, and to smile - only 10 ... Do not forget the words of the unforgettable Baron Munchausen from the film by Mark Zakharov:

“A serious face is not yet a sign of intelligence, all the stupid things in the world are done with this facial expression. Smile, gentlemen, smile!”

Everything is easy and simple for me, and the result exceeds all my wildest expectations!

There are times in life when no matter what you do, everything goes wrong. It seems like you are trying, doing everything right, but there are continuous difficulties and obstacles around. Why is this happening? How to tune in to the positive?

We figured out the negative attitudes in, with, now let's figure out how to set ourselves up for positive thinking.

An unconscious order is when a person, without knowing it, attracts adverse events to himself. How does this happen?

The first thing to highlight is fears and doubts about the positive outcome of events. For example, a person is worried that some undesirable situation should not occur in his life. But since he often thinks about this undesirable situation and puts in the emotions of the experience, this situation is sure to come true.

Second - focus on the negative: Everyone has heard about it more than once. This concentration is due to the focus on negative events that the media is aware of. Disasters, other troubles. A person watches this kind of news, worries, then discusses these events, then worries again so that this does not happen to him, but ...

Third - uncontrollable turns of speech: For example, if your speech often contains the words: “problem”, “dead end”, “everything is useless”, etc. Similar words will attract similar situations.

It should be noted that it is difficult for a person in this situation. He seems to “go in circles” and constantly faces the same problems. What to do? You need to train yourself to think positively!

Tune in to the positive

You need to watch your speech, try to concentrate on the “good”, and try to find something good in any negative event, some kind of benefit for yourself. Consider examples of “setting yourself up for positive” in specific life situations:

Reality inversion

I really liked Vadim Zeland's recommendations on this subject in the book Reality Transurfing. I will briefly convey in my own words: If some kind of trouble has happened to you, you need to force yourself to be “rejoiced”, instead of being upset: “So ..., good ...” or something like that, and at the same time mentally “rubbing our hands” . Extraordinary, isn't it? It should be noted that it really works! And next time you will definitely be lucky!

Directing attention in a positive direction

For example, it is winter and the flu epidemic is approaching. How not to worry? Let's think about how to transform the negative into a positive. What needs to be done in order not to get sick, or rather, to always be healthy? It is necessary to increase immunity in some way, for example, learn Qigong energy gymnastics exercises and perform them every morning. Or, in advance, starting in the summer, begin to harden. In addition, you can Laura Silva: “I always keep a perfectly healthy body, spirit and immune system!”

You have done all this work, but still, a little worried? Then, use personal protective equipment, moisten the nasal mucosa so that the virus cannot enter the cell (for example, before visiting public places, you need to instill salt drops in your nose (you can replace it with saline)), humidify and ventilate the room, and repeat: “ My world takes care of me!"

Increasing the effectiveness of the implementation of intentions

How to force yourself not to worry if something very important is about to happen in life? Vadim Zeland gives the following answer to this question:

How not to be afraid? “We need to find insurance, a siding.

How not to worry and not worry?- Act. Potentials of anxiety and worry are dissipated in action.

How not to wait and not to desire?Accept defeat and take action. Dissolve desire and expectation into action.

How to give up your importance?- Accept your importance as an axiom, refuse actions aimed at increasing your importance.

From my experience of “concentrating on the “good”: in my thoughts, calmly, without lust, I scrolled through the favorable outcome of the event and thought: “it would be good if ...” And everything turned out easily and simply, of course.

Solving Problems with Meditation

You can also work with your subconscious on a meditative level, techniques from the Silva Method are very suitable for this: “Mirror of Consciousness” or “Three-Dimensional Contemplation Exercise”.

Brief description of the technique:

1. Relax, dive into the meditative level
2. Representing the problem to be solved as a dull, black and white picture. Let go of the problem, wait until it completely disappears
3. We get a solution to the problem in the form of lively, bright images filled with colors. We imagine ourselves and the people around us in resolving this situation, reinforcing emotions of joy, happiness, gratitude, etc.
4. In the next three days, we receive signs that indicate a solution to the problem or ways out of the current situation

Practical task: Dealing with the situation

Try to put into practice the advice of Vadim Zeland. For example, when you need to get somewhere during rush hour and you are late, or you need to park your car where there are practically no free parking spaces, you need to:

1. calm down
2. accept any outcome
3. spin the fallback option in your head
4. imagine how you have time, and just there is a free parking space
5. mentally repeat: "My world takes care of me!"